Cross Country Healing

What's your favorite movie?  Forrest Gump...no wait, that was his.  I don't like watching movies.  I can't sit still long enough.

What's your favorite food? Seafood...nope, again, that was his.  Anything Oreo and Ice-cream :)

Beach or Mountains? Ummm...can I like both?

What do you like to do in your free time?  I don't know...why?  I don't know who I am not being a wife.  I learned to like everything he liked.  Not a bad thing, totally got to experience new things.  Sometimes I like to put on a gown, but tomorrow can I eat pizza in my PJs?  Is it ok to like Starwars and chick flicks?  How about sports?  I'd rather watch football than the latest Soap.  Does that make me one of the guys now?  Can I be one of the guys but respected like a woman? 

This past year I have experienced so many new things...but the best part...I began discovering ME!!  It started with a girls trip to LA.  Then golf lessons and a golf trip to Palm Springs.  Followed by Helicopter rides to rocky drives in Hawaii with my bestie.  Baseball and Basketball cards to a Pandemic.  Learning how to be a friend and being there for one another expecting absolutely nothing in return...all led to a life changing trip.  Two crazy friends deciding last minute to drive cross country with absolutely NO PLANS.  Trusting in God, not rushing, and taking some much needed time for healing and growth.

Starting in LA on Sunday, to Lake Havasu. Then off to the Grand Canyon, Sedona, and Meteor Crater.  Crossing a big ass log in Mars on Earth aka the Petrified Forest National Park aka the Painted Desert to swinging a golf club at "Tin Cup", some random golf course in New Mexico. Car shows and Memorials in Oklahoma to Swimming under a waterfall in the Ozarks (bucket list check) to Cadillac Ranch in Armarillo, TX....which that sky they sing about in Armarillo...yeah, it's definitely something to sing about.  Got to experience some Jazz in  Memphis on Beale Street and the Country Music Hall of Fame in Nashville. Ashville welcomed me back to North Carolina and man was I NOT the same person that left this state just 2 weeks before.

I yelled at God, and thanked him too.   I felt the energy of Sedona and healing of the Forests.  Life is full of experiences if you allow them. If you embrace them and not fight them.  That trip changed my life.  It allowed me to begin healing a piece of me that was still very broken.  A piece that was still holding on.




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