It's Not Just Coffee
"Maybe we can just meet for coffee and get to know one another." "I'm so sorry you lost your spouse. At least you don't have to deal with an ex." "You're perfect in every way, you check all the boxes...but..." "Wow, you are really put together. I don't know if there is room for us to grow." "Any man would be lucky to have you." These are the famous one liners a woman like me gets. Listen, it's not about coffee, or lunch, and getting know me. Do you know how exhausting it is to allow someone in? No, I'm not moving 2 hrs away so what's the point of a meal? You're not ever going to meet my children because I refuse to bring another man into their lives. For what? Risk of another failed relationship? For my children to be subjected to their mothers tears over another heart break? Yeah, no thank you. So yeah, it's not "just coffee" for me. How does a young widow date? Am I considered ...